Facebook and social media sites are known for their ease of spreading a message. They are fast, free and allow you to reach all of your “friends” with just a click of a button.
Facebook posts display the emotions and day-to-day drama of our lives to our friends. This can be helpful in communicating with long distance friends and family. However, social media sites can become a problematic forum during the divorce process.
If you are in the midst of divorce, consider social media off limits.
As tempting as it may be to show the world—including your soon-to-be-ex—your current status, resist at all costs. This includes posting pictures of yourself at parties or bars, or enjoying your newly single life. Avoid using social media as an outlet to air your pain and suffering.
Avoid dating websites and apps until after your divorce is final. Dating websites are not private and are easy for anyone, including your spouse, to search.
Emotions are already inflamed. Therefore, to seek a psychological response that will hurt, anger or otherwise aggravate your spouse because this only serves to sabotage your interests in the divorce.
What’s The Harm?
Deleting Facebook images or posts after-the-fact will not protect you because nothing online is private or ever truly gone after being deleted. Searchable databases that catalog online activity as well as screenshots allow any person online to access your posts, tweets or photos. These items may damage your reputation in matters pertaining to alimony, parental responsibility, parental time-sharing and more.
The satisfaction through social media and dating sites is short-lived at best. Ultimately, It can have permanent and negative consequences in your divorce.
The Benefits of Good Behavior
Keep focused on your ultimate goals when the divorce is over. Only confide in trusted friends, family, a certified counselor or clergy. As a result, It will be much easier to attain what is in your best interest by taking the high road on social media rather than airing your dirty laundry for all to see.
In conclusion, avoid or proceed with caution when using social media during the difficult period before your divorce is final. Most importantly, It will make you emotionally stronger and prepare you for your future—without the worry or regret.Schedule Your Consultation
Andrea is a native Floridian and grew up right here in Central Florida. She is a respected divorce lawyer, coach, consultant, author, and mediator within the Florida court system.
Andrea earned her juris doctorate from Loyola University College of Law, New Orleans and graduated from the University of Central Florida with a bachelor of arts degree in Legal Studies.
She has been certified as a family mediator by the Florida Supreme Court, is a trained collaborative family law attorney, is a member of the Collaborative Family Law Group of Central Florida and the Florida Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
With over two decades as a trial attorney, Andrea has fine-tuned her understanding of the unique dynamics and challenges families face during restructure. She handles contested family law cases that are litigated in court, but believes that family mediation, cooperative and collaborative divorce are by far the more effective, more respectful, and more healthful means to divorce, especially when there are children involved.